About Me

 Hey. I’m Bella. I’m a 23 year old girl with a lot of emotions. I have struggled with anxiety and depression my whole life and am medicated for it. I work as a Radiologic Technologist and have an affinity for the morbid parts of life. I am married to Ethan, who is my absolute best friend. He is the funniest person I have ever met, second only to me. We have a cat named Sophie and she is a menace. But we love her. 

At this very moment I am sitting in an Emergency Room with Ethan. He has Necrotizing Pancreatitis. Hospitals are unfortunately our second home at this point. This has been a very frustrating and exhausting year for us.

I want to use this blog to help me cope with some hard things, as well as share our experiences. Not just with this disease, but with all of the hard parts of life. I dislike that as a community, we have cultivated a space where it is awkward and taboo to share the deep things. I wish more people shared about their struggles so that we can morn together. I hope I can create a safe space where that can happen. 

If you’re reading this, I love you. I hope you stick around to understand me a little better, and find some hope that you’re not the only weirdo trying to figure out life. 

-Bella

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