Just Wait
When you get accepted to college, or get your mission call, or get married, or have a baby, or when any big change happens in your life, there are 2 things people love to do: 1. Celebrate you, say congratulations, give you a hug, give you a card, etc. …then… 2. Tell you in exact, excruciating detail how much life is going to suck immediately following this brief moment of joy. When me and Ethan got married, we heard a lot of comments from people, like: “Just wait, you love each other now, but just give it 5 years.” “Just wait, the first year will be the hardest.” “Just wait, you won’t always be so cuddly with each other.” “Just wait until she starts giving you a honey-do list.” “Just enjoy your time now, because when you have kids you’ll fight all the time.” I was shocked and disturbed by how many people would tell us such disheartening advice. And not just people we were close with, but people we barely knew. Here’s the thing: people know that life is hard, you ...